ARE WE?

  Today is a special day maybe it is because of the fact that I made a cake that tasted ok and did not burn or perhaps I am not good at handling my sorrows and wanted to swoon my mind away from the anguishing memories .Nevertheless I guess it is working for me but the fact remain the same I am a total newbie at writing my blog so I don't know what should or how should .
  These are the some delinquent questions hovering my mind while making me shudder with an uncanny feeling of eagerness.
Here I am sharing my part of life with yours expecting you to be kind patient and most importantly understanding.
       These are my personal perception based on an excerpts I have seen but it would be more helpful if anyone  has different perspective on it. So there is a woman who lives nearby and somehow we became friends, we used to stroll in the neighbourhood in the evening and end our walk with kulhad chai. She used to entail her hardships and how life is cruel to women while making me wonder if I am lucky to be a man? 
      As she began her story I listened, she started by flaunting about her luxurious life  with a beautiful family but the thing that drove her crazy was the mere fact : the inability of her parents to understand her. She expected herself to be an obedient child who had always felt the burden of the sacrifices and devotion of the parents in her bringing so she felt obliged to do anything expected of her by her family. 
      The other day she was cajoling about the importance of male child primarily prevalent in Indian society having been a part of the irony -the Indian family can have 100 children until they have a son to inherit and carry on their family DNA while burdening themselves with the upbringing of the 100 children with a paltry means of salary. Isn't that the injustice done to the children who had been brought to the world to go through such hardships just for satiation of the taboo orthodox thinking.
One can cure illness but it is hard to the change the perception of our loved ones? The biggest dilemma is that we can't leave them or stop loving them! 
    
 An innocent girl is born with label of being burden or to be so called"PARAYA DHAN" but the same family intends to have a good wife for their beloved son, isn't this crazy.It left me astounded and answerless honestly.
      
   I had never felt how my sister felt when she was told to wash the utensils while I was busy in gaming.My mother never told me or made me do any household chores and I always used to think it is not my job to keep the cleanliness of house. It affected me and made me question my values!!
      
    Are we imparting correct values and knowledge to the children.We, Indians make these perceptions and expectation for the decorum behaviour of the women as if we are the ones to decide her future thereby ruling her out as a individual entity having her own right; it is the family that sew the thinking of the child while we are busy in blaming others. Eve-teasing is so normal in our country I don't know how women can endure such insults and humiliation while we, the men are busy showing our hollow manhood to the society when we can't simply talk without using foul language while flouting abuses in the name of mother and sister no body says father#*** so why it is mother*$#
We are not yet civilised, are we?